I am at a loss for words
Please DO NOT save and repost my photos, especially without crediting me.
Before, depressed with an eating disorder. Now, recovered caveman.
Re-blogging this cuz its from a guys perceptive!
I love seeing people all recovered and happy like yeah you kicked that illnesses ass you legend you rule ☺️
So last night I discovered four websites that have my before/after on them in lists of weight loss comparisons, as well as at least two diet programs that feature the same photo on their site, claiming that I used their program.
Ahhhhh… serio? Alguem pode me dizer se é veridica essa foto! E a mesma pessoa!?
Hi, I took your question to google translate because I was curious.
I can absolutely say that, yes, this is a real comparison, and they’re both the same person (me).
The idea of an “Alpha” pair originates from the 1947 “Expressions Studies on Wolves" by Schenkel and was further popularized by L. David Mech’s "The Wolf: Ecology and Behavior of an Endangered Species" written in1968 and published in 1970.
We now know this is not how wolves behave in nature, the aformentioned studies based on the observation of captive packs of unrelated wolves. Even Mech revoked his promotion of the “Alpha theory” as early as 1999 (alt. source).
The term ‘alpha’ suggests the winning of power through contest or battle, however the lead wolves in most wolf packs achieve their status by breeding, then their pups become part of their pack. More accurate descriptors for this lead, breeding pair are “breeding male/female,” “male/female parent,” or even “adult male/female.”
Dogs Aren’t Wolves
Dogs have diverged significantly from wolves in the last 15,000 years. Ancestral wolves evolved as hunters and now generally live in packs consisting most often of family members (Mech 2000). Pack members cooperate to hunt and to take care of offspring. In a given year, generally only the alpha male and alpha female mate, so that the resources of the entire pack can be focused on their one litter. Dogs, on the other hand, evolved as scavengers rather than hunters (Coppinger and Coppinger 2002). Those who were the least fearful, compared to their human-shy counterparts, were best able to survive off the trash and waste of humans and reproduce in this environment. Currently, free-roaming dogs live in small groups rather than cohesive packs, and in some cases spend much of their time alone (MacDonald and Carr 1995). They do not generally cooperate to hunt or to raise their offspring, and virtually all males and females have the opportunity to mate (Boitani et al. 1995)
Honestly, how can anyone think these two need to be treated the same?
Well, the logic was “dogs are descended from wolves, wolves live in packs with a hierarchy that’s kept in check by an aggressive alpha, therefore humans need to dominate their dogs if they want them to behave.”
Obviously, we know better now.
Dogs don’t want to fight with us for ‘dominance,’ they want to get along. The one causing adversity in the relationship would be the owner trying to push ‘dominance’ on their dog, would you enjoy a relationship that involved being bullied near constantly?
Neither would your dog.
To reiterate, dominance theory is the idea that humans need to force their dog into submission with the use of aggression in order to get them to behave.
Dominant-submissive relationships form to determine who has priority access to particular resources, these sort of relationships usually exist only when the dominant party is around to guard the desired resources.
Availability of resources isn’t something we have to worry about when raising a dog, at least not in the sense that we need to compete with our canine companions for them.
Why It Doesn’t Work
A huge flaw with dominance theory is that it fails to address the reasons for the problem behavior(s). Dominance training punishes the behavior without questioning why the dog is acting out in the first place.
Aggression, for example, is often a result of fear, anxiety, or insecurity. In situations like this in particular dominance training would be counterproductive, if your dog is fearful and you react with confrontational behavior (“alpha rolls,” hitting, staring down, etc) chances are you will only worsen the dogs fear and cause him/her to respond with defensive aggression.
Dangers of Dominance Theory
Dominance training can increase aggression, resulting in painful injury for you and an unhappy dog. Unsurprisingly, if you’re aggressive towards your dog your dog will be aggressive to you (“Treat people how you want to be treated.” not exactly the same, but still - kindergarten concept, people!).
It’s common knowledge among professionals that dominance theory is outdated and harmful.
But The Dog Whisperer said-
- Alpha Status, Dominance, and Division of Labor in Wolf Packs
- Comments on “Alpha” Dominance Theory
- De-Bunking the “Alpha Dog” Theory
- Forget About Being Alpha in Your Pack
- Misconceptions of the Mythical Alpha Do
- New Study Finds Popular “Alpha Dog” Training Techniques Can Cause More Harm than Good
- Position Statement on the Use of Dominance Theory in Behavior Modification of Animals
- Whatever Happened to the Term ALPHA Wolf?
I honestly am kind of tired of doing pin-up shoots. Like I still love vintage styles, and I enjoy modeling, but the two together are just getting a little stale for me. Photographers get this very new-school, weirdly plastic (no clue how else to describe it) idea of what pin-up is, and then that’s the only thing they want out of me. It’s discouraging, quite frankly, to put so much time and effort into replicating the hair/makeup of the era and building my collection of vintage clothing so that I have beautiful, unique options to present photographers with, only to have them say “what about that red polka dot bikini and a bandana?” I makes me really angry. They’ll request that I bring my entire wardrobe (that I use for shoots, not literally every piece of clothing I own, though they overlap quite a lot), and I’ll have dresses that belonged to my mother and grandmother, beautiful vintage eveningwear, appropriate lingerie and sleepwear for the period, etc that I’ve painstakingly gathered together, and all I hear about is that damn polka dot bikini. It isn’t even mine! It belonged to the photographer who took those photos, but it’s what fits this new idea of what pin-up is “supposed to be”, so they overlook all of my other work and focus on those 2 or 3 photos. I just want to shake them and yell “you can’t just slap polka dots and bandanas on everything and call it pin-up!!” There is SO much more to the style than that. Now, do I hate polka dots and bandanas? No, I don’t. They’re cute and fun, but they have their place. Go look at the artwork of Vargas and Elvgren, two of the most famous pin-up artists, and see the clothing on the women in those pieces. There’s a huge variation.
I get that these photographers are artists, and that they have a vision that they want to fulfill, but it’s just so frustrating to wear the same thing and pose the same way and make the same face when I get hired for a pin-up shoot. Even worse than being frustrating, it can actually keep me from getting work. If someone sees 8 different photos of me by 8 different photographers, but they’re nearly identical, they’re going to think that that’s all I know how to do and they won’t want to work with me. The fact that I’m just taking direction from the photographers doesn’t matter then, all that matters is what they can see in the pictures in front of them. And if you only go by those pictures, I’m a one-trick pony. I pride myself on being a rather versatile model, so that gets me royally ticked off.
I’m thankful for the jobs I get, and I still love what I do, but the repetition is getting to me in a big way.
tl;dr I’m frustrated with my job, and photographers apparently can’t be assed to have a halfway original idea.
So as it turns out, my dogs (Gus, a 4yo pit bull/great dane mix & Gatsby, a 1.5yo purebred Treeing Walker Coonhound) are actually butthead toddlers.
I was working on the computer, and Gus, being the mama’s boy/attention hound that he is, decides that I’m not paying enough attention to him drooling on my leg, and so he throws a tantrum. He huffs and flops around and pulls all of the pillows and cushions off of the couch, effectively making himself a couch fort. Doesn’t he just look pleased with himself?
Now Gatsby, being the little brother, wanted to come up and play in the cool fort with big bro! It’s neat! The rope toy is up there! Playtime!
But Gus is a big ol’ meanie and doesn’t want to let his annoying kid brother into his cool fort, so he blocks Gatsby when he tries to get on. So Gatsby sulks over to me with those big puppy dog eyes, seeming to say “Mooooooommmmm Gus is being a meanie head! Make him let me play!”
And then he just stared sadly at me as I nearly died from laughter because it was just absolutely ridiculous to see two dogs acting so much like human children.
My dogs are weirdos.
Making those mornings worth waking up for: Baked Eggs with Spinach, Onion, Pine Nuts and Sundried Tomato
For those mornings when you’re tempted to wake up and have a delicious fried egg, have baked eggs instead – like the more delicious counterpart of any breakfast egg variation be it frittata, fried egg or boiled egg, and far healthier than many of these options as well. Filled with sautéed vegetables, cooked without oil yet yielding a crust on the outside and a soft, warm eggy centre, it’s the recipe to a good day.
- For the sautéed vegetable: Firstly toast half a handful of pine nuts. Whilst you’re waiting, blanch some spinach (there are no exact measurements for this because it really depends on how much vegetable you’d like to put in – if there’s too much you can keep the sautéed vegetable as fillings for other delicious things!) and chop it up into tiny pieces. Chop up four sundried tomato halves into tiny pieces. Dice half a head of onion and with half a tablespoon of olive oil, sauté in a pan until transparent. Then, add your chopped spinach, sundried tomato, pine nuts and cook until the spinach wilts.
- For the baked egg: Line the outside of a ramekin with the sautéed vegetables, leaving a hole in the center. Crack your egg into the hole, and if you’re willing to add the extra calories, put in a pat of butter or a dash of milk (this is completely optional) for a more delicious bake on the egg.
- Another optional topping would be grated Parmesan or cheddar (here a mixture is used) on top of the egg so it can bake into a cheesy, delicious lid.
- Season with pepper, and enjoy!
when someone texts u saying “here!” but u aint ready yet
promoting body positivity for larger girls:
doing so by throwing skinny girls under the bus, calling thinner girls “fake”, or insisting that being bigger is “what men really want” (implying that any female body type is only good if it has male approval):